Hidden Truths Behind Employee Resignations: The Secrets They Keep to Themselves

• by Rowan Drake
  • 3 Min

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In a nutshell, Mr. Drake, you suggest that employees often leave their jobs covertly due to unmet psychological needs, specifically a lack of attention, appreciation, and job security. What's the story behind this conclusion?

I frequently come across managers who are caught off guard when an employee departs. They can't grasp the reasons for the staff member's exit. However, the cause is usually clear: employees feel neglected and undervalued. But many bosses overestimate their communication skills.

So, employees leave because they don't get enough attention from their superiors?

At first glance, it may seem like that. But it's more about something deeper. Every individual has basic psychological needs that must be addressed - even at work. Fundamentally, it's about feeling secure. Only those who feel secure in their professional surroundings are willing to express uncertainties or doubts. If this basic need isn't met—a common occurrence—people tend to hide their true feelings. Especially in hybrid or remote work environments where face-to-face contact isn't guaranteed, people can feel abandoned swiftly.

But why is it so tough for many people to talk openly about these issues to their boss, leading some to quit instead of having the conversation?

Fear of being at a disadvantage if they express their concerns is a significant factor. Another reason could be insecurity regarding their own performance, feeling as though they're not contributing sufficiently and hence hesitant to voice criticism. In Germany, a lack of appreciation in the workplace is responsible for 45% of employees leaving their jobs[1]. This feeling isn't trivial and results in financial losses for companies.

If employees don't feel comfortable discussing appreciation, what do they usually say when they quit?

They'll often mention that the environment wasn't a good fit or that goals weren't clearly defined. Such vague explanations provide no insight for managers and can't be used for learning. Hence, I'd inquire directly: What did you need that wasn't available? What could have made you happier in the team? Which need wasn't met? These honest conversations should ideally happen before it's too late.

How can managers inspire employees to openly discuss unpleasant aspects?

A supportive and safe environment must be created. Lowering the barrier to addressing doubts and dissatisfaction follows from this. This sense of security is primarily achieved by genuine listening. Employees feel heard, fostering trust and increasing the willingness to provide genuine feedback. From a manager's perspective, focusing on areas where employees can grow and contribute is crucial. Classic praise can be problematic, as it creates dependencies. Instead, I'd rather show interest in their tasks, ask about the process they used for reaching a solution, or inquire about their ideas.

How do I, as a leader, know if my message has reached my employee?

Clearly communicating with employees is crucial, but it's just as essential to confirm whether the message was understood as intended. A straightforward question such as "Could you summarize what you've understood?" or "What did you take away?" can provide insights into what has been received. In the second step, explain what you aimed to convey and discuss any potential misunderstandings. This approach can swiftly clarify many misconceptions.

In short, what else can I do as a manager to ensure I'm effectively commu--

Tip number two is self-reflection. Deliberately pay attention to what you're saying, considering whether it's too complex or too superficial. You should expect it to be misunderstood if it's not clear. To understand your employees better, change your perspective and view them as customers for the product of the workplace. This makes it clear: You don't just desire satisfaction but excitement and an excellent experience from them[4].

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Practical Tips for Supportive Communication in the Workplace:

1. Empathy Training: Implement workshops focusing on empathy, emotional intelligence, and mindful communication to improve employee interactions[2].
2. Nurture Non-Judgmental Conversations: Encourage openness by fostering a non-judgmental environment where employees feel comfortable discussing their thoughts[3].
3. Create Accessible Communication Channels: Offer multiple platforms for communication, from town halls and anonymous feedback forms to regular check-ins, ensuring ongoing dialogue[5].
4. Model Desired Behavior: Lead by example by exhibiting supportive and open communication, empowering employees to follow suit[5].
5. Prompt Feedback Mechanisms: Establish tools for continuous feedback to address concerns immediately, minimizing the opportunity for issues to escalate[5].
6. Supportive Listening Skills: Teach active listening and speaking techniques to ensure constructive and respectful conversations[5].
7. Prepare for Difficult Discussions: Encourage employees to prepare for important conversations and use techniques like rehearsal and self-soothing to manage anxiety[3].
8. Address Misunderstandings Promptly: Equip employees with skills to clarify misunderstandings calmly and manage emotional responses during conversations[3].

[1] - [4] Enrichment Data.

1. To prevent employees from quitting silently, leaders should prioritize addressing their psychological needs, such as acknowledgment, appreciation, and job security, as these often remain unmet.
2. Reports suggest that a lack of appreciation in the workplace contributes to 45% of employees leaving their jobs, with employees citing vague reasons like an unfavorable environment or unclear goals upon departure.
3. Visionary leaders aim to create a work environment conducive to open dialogue about unpleasant aspects, fostering this atmosphere by employing empathy training, nurturing non-judgmental conversations, and establishing accessible communication channels.
4. By adopting supportive communication practices, promoting continual feedback mechanisms, and empowering employees with essential listening and speaking skills, leaders can ensure effective communication within the organization, thereby minimizing the risk of employees quitting without explanation.

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